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03/06/2010 New WOOSH-it now on Twitter!

As you guessed from the title of this post, WOOSH-it has finally entered the twitterverse. We’re very excited.  Keep up with the latest updates and daily quotes by following us on twitter by clicking here

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09/05/2010 Lessons Learnt: Relationships ending…

Challenges faced in the past week was based on relationship and the ending of it. Thinking about how badly the relationship ended it only created feelings of anger inside of me which makes it difficult to move on.

Harboring these feelings inside slowly started to chip away at me, turning me into a negative person, especially when venting my feelings with friends.

Why do we always think back and try to think how things could have changed and depending on that person to make things better?

What I have learnt during this experience is firstly, not to talk to your friends as at times, it only fuels the fire. However, if you need to talk to someone, turn to the friends who you know as dependable and who are helpful when it comes to listening and giving advice.

Try and think about what else is good in your life, be grateful for what you have. Create your history by doing new things, hobbies, etc to fuel your passion not your anger and regret. Perhaps a change in routine and environment can help; it certainly helped me to move on. Helping, appreciating and loving others is also beneficial.

Take responsibility by not blaming the other person, you decide how you react. Have no expectations from the other person such as waiting for an apology or an explanation. This is the first step to forgiving. Don’t worry about things out of your control- some problems can’t be solved.

What would u do if you were in this situation?


Remember to WOOSH-it!

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30/03/2010 Lessons learnt: Losing direction

Having spent a week off work due to illness, I had alot of time to reflect on things I have and haven’t done in the past few months.  During this time, I’ve come to realize that there so many other goals I wanted to achieve in my life in all areas.

With so many goals, I didn’t know where to begin. At this point, before I became more confused, I put in place the following actions:

– opened up to a blank page in my diary
– listed the top five things I wanted to achieve over the next six  months
– in the order of priority I was eating healthier incorporating more exercise, cutting down on unnecessary spending on items I want but don’t need instead choosing to put more towards my savings and my upcoming holiday. Other ways I have managed to save was to eat out less.

Long term goals
– focus on my career growth and opportunities
– focus on things outside of work such as blogging for the woosh-it  cause, expanding and spreading the word of woosh-it by helping others  to find their purpose in life
– build and be a significant contributor towards my youth community

Each day I go back to my diary to make sure I’m taking the necessary  steps, however little they may be so long as

they are keeping me on  track knowing that I’m heading in the right direction.

Having this all written down  I can refer back to these pages to remind myself what  matters and what I’m passionate about.

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24/03/2010 IS THAT PERSON WORTH YOUR TIME?

Nothing is certain! Don’t put your whole heart into something you have doubt with or something you think might not work but giving it a shot anyways..otherwise we are setting ourselves for failure! Being in a relationship where you feel that you are know growing mentally or not growing as a person is quite detrimental. Not say you shouldn’t give in a relationship but its important for the other person to give back too, I have been in relationships where I feel like I am trying way to hard to make it work! Like meeting up with them or planning special events and activities with them once you start dating officially. I feel really hurt when I don’t get something in return but then again I know that is conditional love if I am doing something for that person in return for something due to expectations I have in my mind! We sometimes don’t like to tell the other person the expectations we have but we choose to keep them to ourselves and the likelihood of letting it out when we are super disappointed and upset is very high. But as girls we don’t tell the guy anything until they have really upset us! We know that if we set expectations for a guy, they will be pressured and stressed so the chances for them to act on it are quite low. So maybe silence is the best way to solve things at times. But its so hard to keep it in when they have let you down, there are times where you just given that person so many chances, tell them the way you feel and yet they still act the same and never change! What is going? You ask yourself. Do they even love me? Care for me? Or are they still into me at all still? What is there problem? Or this is the way they are and they are perhaps being themselves? But it does make me upset, sometimes I just don’t understand why we have to let out our feelings even though they don’t really take into consideration…some guys are great at words and talking to girls to reassure and some are really bad..they don’t know how to treat a girl at all…or even to KEEP a girl! These are the guys that break girls heart the most I believe! Unless you communicate to them multiple times and tell them what to do, I don’t think they will put in the effort to change at all or even act on what you say! Why put myself in a relationship where I am constantly wasting my time and energy to make it happen or work? Shouldn’t it be nice and easy where if the two of you are compatible it should automatically fall into place? But I guess in today’s world we can never live in a perfect life..or there is no such thing called the perfect life. I guess it’s the way how you see things and what determines perfect for you. I believe finding God and having God to help you find your purpose will definitely give you the opportunity to find happiness beyond what you can understand! This happiness you can not get from other people but only from God! The creator of this universe is the only one that can help you find true happiness because he teaches us not to fall in love with earthly things but in fact heavenly things which will last forever! So just train your mind to have everything held on so tight because it might not be yours forever or wont even last as long as what you have expected. Inevitable things will happen and that’s just life for you! We need to accept what happens to us in reality and we can never meet the “ONE” or the right person if we don’t accept people for who they are. Everyone is not perfect, we can never find the one of our dreams if we do not learn to accept others for what they are, or the mistakes and bad habit they have. Every guy works differently and we should not learn to compare all the time because if we always look for comparison there are always differences and we would get even more upset if the guy you are dating now is not as good as your last. If we truly made the decision to love someone well we have to love them unconditionally and not give up them for things they have done wrong or mistakes they have done to hurt you. If we keep telling them the same thing and how upset you feel, the more bad things they will do to you because they will usually perceive that you are negative and the negativity vibe rubs onto them which cause them to make more mistakes down the road. Or even they feel pressured to see you or make time for you if you whinge. But on the other hand you give them the support you need and encouragement they need without you asking then they are most likely want to see you or miss you even more even though they don’t show it or express in words. We got to understand maybe sometimes guys don’t express themselves they way you want to we need to know that they still care and love you. However you need to accept that the way you and your partner express love is different so that’s why there maybe misinterpretation or miscommunication. So its still important to talk about these differences so at least he or she knows when you are upset what love language to use to talk to you in order to communicate to you effectively. Remember don’t talk about your problems to so many people because everyone has different perspective of love and how a relationship to work you may have a whole lot of different opinions thrown at you which then causes you to have million of thoughts running in your head! So no wonder some people get stressed out and can be so obsessive it can lead them to be really depressed or become suicidal. So we should learn to be in silence, think it through pray to God to control yourself and for him to give you the love, the patience and the peace. Especially if you are with someone that is calm, its better that you do not trigger a fight because it should be a lot easier for you to be calm and show him what is true love. Remember for you to change a person, look at yourself first. Don’t you have mistakes or bad habits you should change as well before you can change a person? Bear in mind actions are louder than words spoken so put your love in action, don’t jump into conclusion and misinterpret one person’s actions. I know it may seem hard when you are in the situation but when you look at a third person’s point of view the problem may not be a big as you think it is. That’s why I love blogging about relationships because it does help me to put things back into perspective and look at the bigger picture of life. But more importantly, I can let God speak to me as write, so I can be more positive and optimistic. But when you fall in the trap of speaking to too many people then you would you will have a million voices going through your mind and then you will be so confused because you do not know which voice to follow and listen to.

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24/03/2010 STAYING FOCUSED!

There are times where I cant help thinking about what other people have said to me and somehow I do take what people say to me personally. I know most of us are like that otherwise we won’t be upset or disappointed at our family, friends, or work colleagues.

Remember don’t let other people’s comments get to you because at the end of the day it is your life and no one has the right to tell you what to do! You are responsible for your own happiness so therefore you can choose what to do with the opinions and comments made by other people.

So choose your thoughts carefully, your mind is like a USB memory stick, it is easy to be filled with unnecessary things such as negativity and negative criticism and opinions made by other people. You have the power to choose what to do with those negative comments and words but, so be yourself and evaluate those comments by yourself and remember you do not to have please everyone so don’t let the negative comments put you down!

If you let those negative criticism get to you then it can distract you from what you are doing rather than staying focused! But on the other hand, if the criticism is constructive, then it will do you good in the future! If we take constructive criticism then we allow ourselves to grow! We are never too old to learn!

Remember you can always woosh negativity away! So continue to WOOSH-it peeps!!!

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24/03/2010 NEVER GIVE UP!

Never give up on your dreams! Despite the obstacles we face, we still have to keep pursuing on dreams and ambitions! With WOOSH you can always find hope and new opportunities for your life! So keep WOOSHing away and don’t give up!

Remember to do these things to help you motivate yourself each day!

-keep a journal or a diary of how you feel during the day and write down the tasks for yourself each day! Don’t make an unrealistic To-do list if you know you are not capable of doing it!

– Talk to the right people, people that are wise and mature enough to give you good and motivating advice. Be around people that will lift you up and boost up your self esteem and confidence. If the people you are talking to are discouraging and putting you down, then you know that they are not the ones to be around with

-Read books that will give you more knowledge, good books are the ones that inspire and motivate you

-Listen to motivational CD’s to give you a positive attitude and for inspiration

-Read blogs that give you good tips and advice on certain topics you are interested in

-Get yourself connected in a social, youth or religious group so that you will be encouraged by a positive and mature people. So if you need help there are people that are on a look out for you!

Remember that you don’t have to do life by yourself, but its doing life with other people and building on quality relationships that will make you grow as a person!

-Have gratitude each day and be thankful with what you already have, use the current resources you have to make things happen! Don’t wait around and expect things to happen! Things wont change unless you CHANGE and  you do something about it! Not your family nor your friends, its YOU, take the responsibility and initiative to do something in order to achieve your own goals!!!

Doing these things will definitely enhance yourself and keep you motivated to achieve your own goals! Life is a journey so make sure you do something towards your dream goal every day! Its not so much about achieving your dream goal at the end but its about the moment you experience throughout the journey because you will be more happy thinking back how you achieved your goals! So enjoy every moment of your life now and don’t give up on what ever you want to achieve because right now you are creating your history!

So WOOSH away Folks!

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24/03/2010 IS THERE REALLY A PERFECT ONE?

How do find the find the MR right or MisS Right? Will you ever find the MR or MRS perfect? Or is there ever the one at all? Well the answer is NO, you will never find that perfect one because no one is PERFECT!

It makes it really difficult for us to answer this question if we have so many preferences, high expectations, or have a high criteria. Well certainly there is nothing wrong with having standards or expectations at all but at the end it depends how it’s important to you and how the person will impact you in the long run. In a Christian perspective if we were to go out with a person, it is ideal to find out whether that person is the one we will marry or not. In other words Christians believe in courting rather than dating. Why?

In today’s world people like to go for “dates” or to go out with the person to find out more about the person. Or people like to get into de-facto relationships before entering marriage. Doesn’t this sound like “testing the waters” before being serious? Or try before u buy? But this doesn’t work well when it comes to relationships because a lot of people rush into relationships without knowing the person really well are putting themselves at risk of breaking up or divorcing. As Christians we do not believe in sex before marriage or divorcing. People these days do not take the time to get to know the person before going into the relationship and one of the common reason is usually lust, which usually does not last very long at all. So that’s why it is hard for us to accept the other person’s personality or character when we are in the relationship, so therefore they cannot say they love each other. So when we are in the “dating” phase we are putting ourselves into various temptations such as having sex before marriage, moving in together etc…but by doing this when you really like someone help you to get to know the person even more? Some say “yes” because you feel connected with that person and makes them feel secure or close..and the list of reasons go on. Someone that heads down that path will have a lot of excuses for themselves to act that way or to make that sort of decision. In the past I have been tempted before and had thoughts of moving out even before I got married, but it does not necessarily make me feel that I know the person really well, because if that was the case what is the reasoning behind those people that have been married for over 10 years and still end up in divorce? So this has already told me that living with someone you are going out with does not make you know the person better. Why? The answer is that when the two of you are in a relationship you will always try to impress each other or try to meet the other person’s expectations as part of being a boyfriend or a girlfriend. But if you take time to know the person by being as friends then you will get to know the person a lot more than moving too fast in being in a relationship. So guys please take time to get to know the person you have interest in, because they might be only great friends but not great partners so take things slowly. Everyone keeps saying this to me “When you start fast it ends fast” its true!! You don’t want to put yourself in a rollercoaster because you don’t want to have too many expectations at the start. A lot of people make the mistake of getting it into fast by not knowing the person or even themselves because personally they might not emotionally available or ready to be in the next relationship, or simply not being themselves, therefore there is a tendency where we would set false expectations for one another. This is one of the common reasons why people have re-bound boyfriend or girlfriends because they are temporarily getting into a relationship to make themselves feel better or get over the past hurt which are usually the wrong reasons in getting into a new relationship. Remember its not wise to find a re-bound person because at the end not only you are hurting yourself but will be hurting the other person which is also unfair on their behalf. So unless you are sure of what you want in the future or pursue in marriage please don’t just go out and date random people because it might seem to be an excitement for you or could be a temporary relief but bear in mind it won’t last and it will only play with your mind.

What has helped me to focus on what type of guy I would like to court one day and not “DATE’’ is aligning my preferences and criteria with God’s criteria of an ideal husband for me. I opened up the bible on one night and came across this passage in 1 Timothy 3 where it outlines an ideal husband or a ideal wife. In Timothy 3: 2-8 Now the overseer must be above reproach the husband of but one wife, temperate, self controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach. Not given to drunkenness, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, not lover of money. He must manage his own family well and see that his children obey him with proper respect. Is someone does not manage his own family how can he take care of God’s church? He must not be a recent convert or he may become conceited and fall under the same judgment as the devil. He must also have good reputation with outsiders so that he will not fall into disgrace and into the devils trap. Deacons likewise are to be men of worthy of respect sincere and not indulging in much wine and not pursuing in dishonest gain. They must keep hold of the deep truths of the faith with a clear conscience. After reading this passage I now understand what are the qualities and standards I need to have in order to have a wise husband and have a happy marriage in the future. So it is important to me that I do find someone that truly loves God and his kingdom. To make things a lot simpler this is the main criteria I should have when selecting a potential partner! If I focus on other materialistic things I want from a guy its only a guy in my dreams but we can never find that one in our dreams and if we do somehow get to know the “perfect” one it is not going to be the ideal one at the end, remember no one is perfect because every individual will have flaws. The tangible things you can see in a person will not last, what lasts is what is intangible in a person, their personality, the godly character they portray and their wisdom. As a result at the end of the day what really makes the two of you stay together at the end is the intangible qualities of a person, because you can help each other grow spiritually and support each other when the two of you are going through the turmoil or hard times. A Christian couple can only make this happen if the two are both compatible in the intangible qualities because the both of them would understand how to love each other by knowing God and no matter what they are going through they can come to accept one another as they are.

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24/03/2010 LOVE TRULY HURTS!

Falling in love hurts so much when you always try to think of the other person all the time…you put all the effort and thought into planning something for someone who you are with and for the person that you do care. So we when we do something for someone we always have an expectation to receive something back…but not necessarily our partner will feel the same way and respond the way we want them to respond. We will always get disappointed if we set expectations on people and try to please people.

What now? whatever I do now I should just do it out of love and care and regardless whether I will get love back or anything in return because love is unconditional and we truly love someone or want to let the people that we do love and care for them, we should not expect to have something back from them otherwise our love is based on conditions or we only show act of love when we receive something from that person. As a result it is probably yourself being selfish because its about how you feel and how you want to be treated. We got to remember when someone does not respond the way we want to got to be considerate that they might be going through personal problems, it could be a bad habit, or perhaps they are having a hard and stressful day. So what ever it is if we approach the person we love in a gentle way, any problems and miscommunication can be solved. Providing that we talk to them in a calm manner in order to tell them how you would like to be treated is fine, but remember do not try to force them and put pressure that they have to change or demand to do something next time. If they really want to do something for you they would automatically change themselves. There is no point tell them to do something when they don’t want to or its out of their convenience.

Love is unconditional and we should learn to be always gentle, and patient so if we share how we feel to our loved ones, then don’t try to put an expectation that they should change. Because if they do not change or do not do what we want again we will go through the whole cycle again or being disappointed and upset and again it seems like that our happiness is dependant on the person again! our happiness should be dependant on God, who is the creator of this universe. Happiness doesn’t  just come from people its actually from something bigger than God. If we want to learn how to show love to people we should compare ourselves to the Lord Jesus Christ. He is the man of LOVE!

A good friend of mine have just started seeing someone new and there are times where she tells me that she feels so high and happy because of what he has done to her. But when ever there are times that where she doesn’t feel the love, she will get frustrated because he hasn’t done the right thing to make her feel good.

Well as humans we all have emotions and feelings, nothing wrong to feel the way we are feeling but if we let the emotions and feelings overtake us then we will be in big trouble because it will affect the way we act towards family and friends and the behaviour we have towards everything we are facing! We need to treat the good and bad feelings in a careful manner.

No matter what happens we should learn how to control our feelings, so don’t get over excited and happy because once we feel this way we will automatically set an expectation for that person to treat us better so when ever that person fails us we will immediately be upset or disappointed. Vice versa if we are upset or sad, we can not let it affect us, we need to think of the benefits of experiencing the situations; we can ask ourselves questions like, “Am I going to be a stronger and more independent person by going through this?” Is it God testing my patience through this situation?” “Have I learnt to be more dependant on God during this time of my life?” if only we focus on what we will get through experiencing the pain in the situation not only make us feel better and make us look beyond what is happening but you will see how you have learnt to let things go and not to hold on things too tight! We can not control everything we have on this earth so therefore we can not fall in love with things on this earth, nothing will last forever! When you reflect back on how you dealt with a particular hard situation you would have realized how much you have grown as a person! So remember to WOOSH it Folks!

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24/03/2010 LISTENING TO GOD’S VOICE and GETTING WISDOM FROM GOD.

Few days ago God spoke to through reading the Word of God. I have already given up liking this guy that had treated me unfairly and irresponsibly. In 2 Corinthians 6:14

He says “ Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? For we are the temple fo the living God as God has said: “I will be their God and they be my people. There fore come out from therm and be separate says the Lord. To ouch no unclean thing and I will receive you. Ch 7:1- since we have these promises dear friends le us purify ourselves from everything that contaminates body and spirit, perfecting holiness out of reverence for God.

After reading this passage, God had made things cleared for me when I was having negative thoughts and also thoughts of not letting go of this ungodly guy I liked. I felt that I was going back to walk back to the old route I used to take and rewriting my history again. I did not want to sin against God again, so I should be glad that things happen now and not later down the track. For people that don’t know God we tend to blame God why bad things happen and how come we are in a bad situation or is it God’s punishment. But we forget to look back at ourselves and ask ourselves what in fact have we done wrong? Is it because of the poor decisions we have made led us to be the way we are today? Is it because we have still sin in our heart and not yet ask God to forgive us for it? are we still feeling guilty and regret what we have done in the past? Remember God does not put us in the bad situation it is because we are the ones that turn our back towards God so we have to take responsibility of going our own way and making our own decisions before seeking God. I know that in this instance if I keep seeing this ungodly guy I would be tempted to sin against God and will definitely drive myself away further from God so I already know that this guy is not right for me.

Of course after making the decision not seeing this guy anymore was hard and difficult but I know that I have left him for the right reasons, sometimes at the back of my head I always question myself why is it that I had to meet this person? And even though I have done so much to make this person happy he had to treat me like this? Ok obviously it’s the wrong person…at the end of the day I  am not meant to serve men because I they will always fail us. But God will never fail us and make us feel disappointed at all. I try to like or fall in love with someone that doesn’t know God so of course he would not know how to please me…isn’t this right? So after this experience I know that this guy isn’t worth my time because he doesn’t even know what love means. Not only that but I have realized that its very important to choose the a wise Christian man that is mature in God and spiritually mature so when we are together we can support and encourage each other to grow stronger in our walk with God. Remember that feelings are temporary they come and go…so when we are faced with tough decisions we need to ask ourselves is this for our own pleasure or is it to please God? If you are making the decisions based on how you feel then you know you are just thinking about yourself, not only being selfish but you can not be selfless because you are being so preoccupied with doing things to please yourself or make yourself feel better! There is a price we have to pay when we start going our won way and not being obedient to God.

Don’t let Satan remind you about the past and wrong doings. If God has already forgiven you then you know that you have a brand new start again and you are cleansed from your sins and this is a gift from God to us so we should make the most of it.

If we keep holding onto our past we will never be able to move far in life because we are always looking back and that will definitely hold limit ourselves taking up opportunities that God has planned for us! We can only be optimistic by not letting go of that faith and promise from God. Even though there are times when we feel like there is no hope and no opportunities at all but only in the midst of our despair we can experience our closeness and intimacy with God. If we have nothing else to turn to but just him then we know that it is only him that can give us that inner strength to carry on when we are in trouble. No one else can do that but him! But that is only that we allow him to come back into our lives again!

When ever you have mixed feelings or so many negative feelings running in your mind just remember pray so that you can be of one mind and live in peach. So that the God of love and peace will be with you.

Pray to God so that you are able to forgive the person that hurt you, and in this case I have felt rejection I had to forgive him. God has forgiven me for my sins in the past so how can I expect God to forgive me for my sins when I am holding a grudge against the other person? If I don’t forgive and let go of how he hurt me in the past I will just wont stop talking about him and at the end of the day I am hurting myself because I am letting his actions hurt me and let the bad feelings overtake me. Sometimes we always expect an answer for everything but at the end of the day if we know too much its not like it will make a difference to the decisions we make at the end of the day because we need to put things on a bigger scale and see things from a bigger picture rather than over analyzing over little things which at the end does not matter anyways. If we know where we want to head in the future then we need to base all our little decisions based on what we want in the future..rather on what makes us FEEL good at the time! Don’t let your own feelings trip you up!

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24/03/2010 Accepting the differences of an individual!

After being in different relationships I have realized every guy has his own differences. There are times where we have first started dating and we would already pick up flaws of the other person! We then get frustrated and annoyed at the way they have behaved but then not too sure how to let the other person know that they don’t like it! Its challenging and that’s exactly what some new couples are going through right now. So you will ask questions like “ do I tell him or do I get angry at him?” Or do I just ignore him and play mind games with him and see how reacts or whether he picks up whether I am upset or not?”

Well since you are already spending so much time thinking of what he has done to annoy you well then use that time to think what you should say to him instead? So be direct and honest to your partner because if you keep accumulating all the feelings to yourself it will just become worse! So tell him /her in a nice way and how his behaviour or habits are affecting you but be courteous and nice about it and acknowledge how it can be hard to get rid of that behaviour and or to change. Make them aware its not getting them to change or do something straight away but to change gradually and let them know its for their own benefit and not to change themselves for you or for your own interest. Because as soon as the other person perceives that they should change for him or her they are reluctant to because they would perceive that as being pushy, demanding or maybe perhaps think that you are selfish and everything is about you and you.

But sometimes its beyond your control about what they think after you have shared your feelings to them, they can act negative or either they will change. In order to encourage someone to change we will have to learn to be patient with that person and don’t always point out all the bad things they have done and what they haven’t done otherwise you will be able to find more fault with them. If you have already brought up once they just leave it, no need to say it again if you have already mentioned to them how you feel about it now. If they want to make you happy they will put in the effort regardless you say it or not! Let them be themselves! Because at the end of the day if they don’t change then that way you know that they will never change and you will either have to come to acceptance of their bad behaviour and bad habits and love them as part of the package. Since love is unconditional you will have to accept them as who they are and love them as a whole. To love we can’t choose to love the things that please us but is to truly give your heart to that person in order to LOVE! So therefore love their differences! Not just the commonalities the person has with u!

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