IS THAT PERSON WORTH YOUR TIME?

24/03/2010 IS THAT PERSON WORTH YOUR TIME?

Nothing is certain! Don’t put your whole heart into something you have doubt with or something you think might not work but giving it a shot anyways..otherwise we are setting ourselves for failure! Being in a relationship where you feel that you are know growing mentally or not growing as a person is quite detrimental. Not say you shouldn’t give in a relationship but its important for the other person to give back too, I have been in relationships where I feel like I am trying way to hard to make it work! Like meeting up with them or planning special events and activities with them once you start dating officially. I feel really hurt when I don’t get something in return but then again I know that is conditional love if I am doing something for that person in return for something due to expectations I have in my mind! We sometimes don’t like to tell the other person the expectations we have but we choose to keep them to ourselves and the likelihood of letting it out when we are super disappointed and upset is very high. But as girls we don’t tell the guy anything until they have really upset us! We know that if we set expectations for a guy, they will be pressured and stressed so the chances for them to act on it are quite low. So maybe silence is the best way to solve things at times. But its so hard to keep it in when they have let you down, there are times where you just given that person so many chances, tell them the way you feel and yet they still act the same and never change! What is going? You ask yourself. Do they even love me? Care for me? Or are they still into me at all still? What is there problem? Or this is the way they are and they are perhaps being themselves? But it does make me upset, sometimes I just don’t understand why we have to let out our feelings even though they don’t really take into consideration…some guys are great at words and talking to girls to reassure and some are really bad..they don’t know how to treat a girl at all…or even to KEEP a girl! These are the guys that break girls heart the most I believe! Unless you communicate to them multiple times and tell them what to do, I don’t think they will put in the effort to change at all or even act on what you say! Why put myself in a relationship where I am constantly wasting my time and energy to make it happen or work? Shouldn’t it be nice and easy where if the two of you are compatible it should automatically fall into place? But I guess in today’s world we can never live in a perfect life..or there is no such thing called the perfect life. I guess it’s the way how you see things and what determines perfect for you. I believe finding God and having God to help you find your purpose will definitely give you the opportunity to find happiness beyond what you can understand! This happiness you can not get from other people but only from God! The creator of this universe is the only one that can help you find true happiness because he teaches us not to fall in love with earthly things but in fact heavenly things which will last forever! So just train your mind to have everything held on so tight because it might not be yours forever or wont even last as long as what you have expected. Inevitable things will happen and that’s just life for you! We need to accept what happens to us in reality and we can never meet the “ONE” or the right person if we don’t accept people for who they are. Everyone is not perfect, we can never find the one of our dreams if we do not learn to accept others for what they are, or the mistakes and bad habit they have. Every guy works differently and we should not learn to compare all the time because if we always look for comparison there are always differences and we would get even more upset if the guy you are dating now is not as good as your last. If we truly made the decision to love someone well we have to love them unconditionally and not give up them for things they have done wrong or mistakes they have done to hurt you. If we keep telling them the same thing and how upset you feel, the more bad things they will do to you because they will usually perceive that you are negative and the negativity vibe rubs onto them which cause them to make more mistakes down the road. Or even they feel pressured to see you or make time for you if you whinge. But on the other hand you give them the support you need and encouragement they need without you asking then they are most likely want to see you or miss you even more even though they don’t show it or express in words. We got to understand maybe sometimes guys don’t express themselves they way you want to we need to know that they still care and love you. However you need to accept that the way you and your partner express love is different so that’s why there maybe misinterpretation or miscommunication. So its still important to talk about these differences so at least he or she knows when you are upset what love language to use to talk to you in order to communicate to you effectively. Remember don’t talk about your problems to so many people because everyone has different perspective of love and how a relationship to work you may have a whole lot of different opinions thrown at you which then causes you to have million of thoughts running in your head! So no wonder some people get stressed out and can be so obsessive it can lead them to be really depressed or become suicidal. So we should learn to be in silence, think it through pray to God to control yourself and for him to give you the love, the patience and the peace. Especially if you are with someone that is calm, its better that you do not trigger a fight because it should be a lot easier for you to be calm and show him what is true love. Remember for you to change a person, look at yourself first. Don’t you have mistakes or bad habits you should change as well before you can change a person? Bear in mind actions are louder than words spoken so put your love in action, don’t jump into conclusion and misinterpret one person’s actions. I know it may seem hard when you are in the situation but when you look at a third person’s point of view the problem may not be a big as you think it is. That’s why I love blogging about relationships because it does help me to put things back into perspective and look at the bigger picture of life. But more importantly, I can let God speak to me as write, so I can be more positive and optimistic. But when you fall in the trap of speaking to too many people then you would you will have a million voices going through your mind and then you will be so confused because you do not know which voice to follow and listen to.

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